A Clear Direction (#71)

Posted by on Jan 5, 2018 in Articles | 4 comments

So you don’t know what you really want?

Yes you do.

The idea that you really do know what you want may surprise you. And although on a conscious level you may be unaware of it, the clues have been there all along.

Underneath all the layers, all the conditioning, all the confusion, you’ve always known what you’re searching for. That special blend of just the perfect activities in the perfect dose with the perfect timing; the precise experiences that you’d love.

The problem is, you’ve been searching and looking outside for the answers and yet no one knows you as well as you know yourself. They can guide you, yes, yet you’re the one who can reach all of the puzzle pieces of your life. You may just need a little help assembling them.

Allow me to help you access just a little bit of your own inner wisdom today, to brighten up all of your tomorrows.

Do you like detective stories? I do. When I was a kid, I loved reading mystery novels. I devoured book after book, from the complete sets of Nancy Drew and The Hardy Boys to Sherlock Holmes, Agatha Christie and the Jason Bourne series. Seeing under the story, unearthing the evidence and recognizing where the patterns and signs were pointing was so intriguing for me. I also read stories about dinosaurs and ancient civilizations. I wanted to understand the trail from evidence to reconstructing the truth of what took place. I also loved math…because I could drill down to the core answer. (Notice that when I coach today, I’m satisfying the same detective tendency that I always had. As I said, the evidence was always there.)

Let’s put on our excavation gear now (yes you can top it off with a geekie detective hat if you like—ooooh that looks great on you!), to gleam a little more insight into what you really want.

When I talk about what you want, there are a couple of key points to note:

  • I’m referring to what you want in your heart, rather than what your head is saying that you should want, or what you think is possible.
  • I’m looking for what you desire, rather than what your teachers, parents or friends want for you.

Are you with me so far?

Chances are that there have been many layers of lies you’ve told yourself that have pulled you off track from what you really want. That’s why many people end up with regrets when they get older. I’m guessing that regrets will never be on your wish list.

To help you get more on-track, let’s identify some of the ‘evidence’ that reveals what lights you up. Think back to your childhood, your teenage years and beyond. What kinds of activities brought you to life? What settings did you thrive in? Did you like to spend most of your time on your own or in groups? What did you enjoy learning? And how about the music, the movies, the sports? Was there a certain aspect of your jobs that you really enjoyed?

I want you to write down all of your insights, without judging or dismissing any of them. Remember, they’re all clues.

You’ll end up with a list of things that may seem disconnected…some of the things may seem irrelevant or even silly. Yet a really good detective takes it all in and looks for subtle patterns and themes. Right Sherlock?

Once you have the puzzle pieces, it may take some time to put them all together; that’s okay. Stay with your desire to clearly see the bigger picture, take action on ideas that are a clear ‘yes!’ and notice opportunities as they present themselves.

Surprisingly, some of my own insights that I initially wanted to dismiss (because I thought they were irrelevant) are now coming through as very important aspects of what I want more of in my life. And other things that I recall being interested in (yet thought I was a failure at) have recently become amazing past-times for me. I also discovered something that I used to enjoy doing long ago which I’ve started up again…now it’s one of my most favorite hobbies.

Re-introducing just one enjoyable thing back into your life can turn your world around. Never discount the clues, the things that seem frivolous or a waste of time. If they inspired you at one time, they probably will again, and they can open up more possibilities.

Look for the underlying things that you always loved, and build them back into your life.

As you may say, it’s elementary my dear Watson.


Until next time,

Live Deeply,TM




  1. Awesome, Maura! Love the way you speak about this so simply and personally. xoxo

  2. Lovely words – I liked them – found a typo in the following:

    Surprisingly, some of my own insights that I initially wanted to dismiss (because I thought they were irrelevant) are now coming through as very important aspects of what I want more of in my lie.

    Do you see it?

    • Ha ha great catch Bonnie!!! Thanks and I’ll change it!!!